Breaking Down Barriers

We Are All Created Equal

Galatians 3:28 says, “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.”

This powerful verse underscores the fundamental truth that we are all created equal, regardless of our abilities or disabilities.

Public stigma against people with disabilities is a significant issue that affects many aspects of life, including health care, employment, and social interactions. Misconceptions and prejudices about disabilities are unfortunately common and can have significant negative impacts. Here are some prevalent myths and the realities that counter them:

1. Myth: People with disabilities are less capable. This misconception assumes that having a disability equates to being less competent or intelligent. People with disabilities have diverse abilities and can excel in various fields with the proper support and accommodation.
2. Myth: Disabilities define a person: Many people view disabilities as the defining characteristic of an individual. However, a disability is just one aspect of a person’s identity. People with disabilities have various interests, skills, and experiences beyond their disability.
3. Myth: People with disabilities are always in need of help. While some individuals may require assistance, many people with disabilities are independent and capable of managing their own lives. It’s essential to offer help respectfully and not assume dependency.
4. Myth: Disabilities are always visible: Not all disabilities are apparent. Invisible disabilities, such as chronic pain, mental health conditions, or learning disabilities, can be just as impactful as visible ones.
5. Myth: People with disabilities are inspirational just for living their lives: This stereotype, often referred to as “inspiration porn,” reduces people with disabilities to objects of inspiration for simply doing everyday activities. It can be patronizing and overlook their achievements and individuality.
6. Myth: Disabilities are a personal tragedy. This view frames disabilities as something to be pitied. Once you get beyond the “Why Me” phase, you can lead a fulfilling life and will not see your condition as a tragedy. I say this because this was my mindset when first diagnosed with BMD.
7. Myth: People with disabilities cannot work or contribute to society. This prejudice can lead to discrimination in the workplace. Many people with disabilities are highly skilled and can contribute significantly when given equal opportunities.

Addressing these misconceptions involves education, promoting positive representations of people with disabilities, and fostering inclusive attitudes. We can create a more understanding and supportive society by challenging these myths.

Overcoming Disabilities

Overcoming a disability often means adapting and finding ways to thrive despite the challenges. It’s about leveraging strengths, using available tools, and fostering a supportive environment. Here are some key points to consider:

1. Adaptation and Innovation: Embracing my disability improved my quality of life and independence. Using assistive technologies and adaptive strategies has enabled me to take a more active parental role in my children's lives.
2. Focus on Abilities: Concentrate on what you can do rather than what you can’t. Everyone has unique skills and talents that can be harnessed to achieve personal and professional goals. This lesson would have made a significant difference had I learned it sooner.
3. Self-Advocacy: Advocate for your needs in various settings, whether it’s at work, school, or in healthcare. Clear communication about your requirements can help ensure you receive the necessary accommodation.
4. Support Networks: There have been times when the support of friends and family has made the difference between thriving and existing. Never take the support of the ones who love you for granted. Build a robust support system of friends, family, and mentors who understand your challenges and can offer encouragement and practical assistance.
5. Continuous Learning: Stay informed about the latest advancements in assistive technology, clinical trials, medical treatments, and legal rights. Knowledge empowers you to make informed decisions and overcome barriers.
6. Promote Inclusivity: Advocate for inclusivity and diversity in your community and workplace. Raising awareness and challenging stereotypes can help create a more accepting environment.
7. Positive Mindset: I believe ninety percent of everything is attitude. Maintain a positive outlook and focus on your achievements. A positive attitude can help you navigate challenges and stay motivated.

Your perspective on embracing tools and focusing on nutrition, mobility, and overcoming implicit bias is a powerful example of how to succeed despite your disability. By focusing on what you can control and leveraging available resources, you can achieve your goals and inspire others.

These stigmas and misconceptions had a significant impact on the decisions I made soon after being diagnosed with BMD. Embracing the tools necessary to maintain my health and mobility would have eliminated a lot of injuries and embarrassment through the years. I believe that had I made better decisions, my life would have been significantly different today.